vulnerability
The researcher and storyteller Brene Brown says that living wholeheartedly means fully investing yourself in life (in endeavors, in relationships, etc.) and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, even...
View Articleconsidering open relationships
Over the holidays, Gerard and I had a chance to spend a lot of time with his sister and brother-in-law. They've been married for five years, and they have a ten-month-old baby. I really like both of...
View Articlethe right answers
Though I've done a lot of kinky things in my day, my core sexual interests are pretty tame. I'm into submission, and I'm game for bondage, but my main thing is that I like to have my bottom smacked,...
View Articlesilly songs
One of the things that I have always loved about Gerard is the way that he loves to sing. He won't readily admit that he loves to sing-- he's spent enough time around professional musicians that he...
View Articlespace and reassurance
Gerard and I are apparently like most couples in that we have different/opposing needs when it comes to feeling safe and loved. There are people out there in this world who feel safest when they have...
View Articlerant
Hello, blog-friends. Today I'm not going to write about love or sex or even romantic struggles. Today I'm just going to write about struggles. Today I'm going to write about how I feel like the...
View Articleblowing away the dust
Well, it's been hard to write for the last couple of weeks. I really hit a dark spot, and didn't quite know what to do with myself. Ranting here helped me, of course... and I also made a decision to...
View Articlesexual side effects
We'd watched half of The Sheltering Sky, part of the time with my hand rubbing his cock through his pajama bottoms. Another part of the time I'd lain myself across his lap, and he stroked and patted...
View Articlesunny days
It's gotten to that time of year right before Daylight Savings Time begins, when the mornings are really sunny. In our cold climate, it's still really cold-- but the birds are starting to sing in the...
View Articlehistories
It's weird for me to think that Gerard and I have been together for almost two and a half years now. We've definitely passed the point of "significant life investment." In fact, I feel us moving to...
View Articlegetting hot again
He pinched my nipple-- not very hard-- and I yelped. It had been aching since I'd gotten up that morning, and Gerard knew it. I didn't bother opening my eyes to see him smile. He doesn't necessarily...
View Articlea date
"I feel bad about Gerard-- canceling the original plan, you know, and excluding him.""Oh, don't feel bad about that." I waved my hand dismissively. "Well, I don't actually feel bad. I just wanted to...
View Articleexploring
"You should come sit over here," she said, patting the bed. She lives in a beautiful, well-kept studio apartment, and the bed was on the opposite side of the room from the couch, where I sat. I stood...
View Articlepostponed
Well, I have been postponed by my would-be part-time casual mistress, perhaps forever.I have to respect her for being honest with me, and for her reasons for backing away. She said that even though...
View Articlea reality
Gerard and I think that what we're going through is probably not uncommon. Probably lots of couples go through this, but probably most of them don't try to write sex blogs! I used to write about us...
View Articledistant family
Recently, my grandfather passed away, and Gerard and I flew out to a completely different part of the country to attend the funeral. The trip meant an introduction to over a dozen of my relatives that...
View Articlea good little redhead
"Be a good little redhead," said Gerard a few hours ago, right before he left. He's going to be gone for ten days, off on a business trip. His business might be finally taking off. We don't know for...
View Articlea once-a-month blog
Well, it seems I am beginning to write a once-a-month blog. Thanks for continuing to check in with me and share your thoughts, even if all I really have to contribute lately are updates.Earlier this...
View Articlegirls, girls, girls
So I'm investigating my lesbian side again. Gerard and I have gone back and forth on this a bit, but in the end I made a profile on a dating site that welcomes casual encounters and thereby opened...
View Articlewaving HI!
So I'm posting now. I'm so sorry that I left some of you wondering whether I was okay. I said I was going to post once a month, and I have definitely not done that. That said -- I am okay. I am more...
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